Protect Your Child from Bullying

Sadly, it seems that bullying is almost inevitable in children’s lives today…
Bullying is generally “directed towards a less powerful person that is intended to cause harm, distress or fear”…
Living with severe food allergies creates a situation where one is by no fault of their own less powerful…
It creates a higher probability of being bullied for one reason or another… but of course doesn’t mean that this will automatically be the case…
The very best thing that we can do as parents of children with severe food allergies is to foster a kind heart in our children…
Most children living with severe food allergies know what it is like to miss out, to be isolated, to be rejected, to feel different…
They have experienced this all first hand too often from a very young age…
To know empathy, to feel sympathy, to have a kind heart are all emotions that they have most likely learnt first hand…
To foster these emotions and to teach our children mutual respect, and resilience are the greatest gifts that we can nurture in our children to help eradicate the terrible behaviour of bullying towards our children…
I hate that my child has to live with the threat of death on his shoulders each and every day…
No child should have to live with such a scary burden and to then have kids acting as cowards around him and towards him is an added unnecessary blow…
All we can do is hope that all the resilience that they have created for themselves through navigating this difficult road to this point helps and guides them through it all…
Resilience is the “capacity to recover quickly from difficulties”…
Resilience is the “process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress”…
I believe that every difficult situation that Oliver has had to deal with up until this point has led to this day….
We are so very proud of how Oliver recently reacted to his latest “attack”…
A callous, premeditated assault…
It’s not the fist time threats have been made towards Oliver in relation to his life-threatening allergies but it is the first time that someone has physically and intentionally gone out of their way to try and harm him… or at the very least scare the living daylights out of him… who actually knows what the bully is thinking???
Oliver’s locker lock was smeared with food… the bully obviously wanted to scare Oliver… to harm Oliver… or probably just make themselves feel better by making someone else feel bad…
They were obviously wanting Oliver to touch the lock and have a reaction…
Or maybe they have no real idea of the REACTION of their ACTION…
We are so thankful that Oliver took every previous experience that he has had, everything that he has learnt to date and took this act in his stride…
Firstly, and most importantly, Oliver was able to identify that there was something wrong with his lock before he touched it…
He then had the courage to go to someone of authority to tell them of the situation…
Oliver was calm, cool and collected… Although he did describe the situation to his teacher as “my locker has been sabotaged”…
We were thankful that previous knowledge and education to Oliver’s teachers enabled them to see the extreme dangers of this situation and how they should handle the outcomes of this behaviour as extremely serious…
Most of all we were very, very proud that Oliver was able to regulate his emotions which must have been a multitude of any number of emotions from anger to fear to bewilderment…
He was diplomatic in how he handled the situation…
When I asked Oliver that day after school how his day had gone… He started proudly with… “I avoided having a major anaphylactic reaction today Mum!”
Well, I too, learnt something from Oliver that day… how to remain calm in a situation where I very much felt very angry and out of control…
Oliver actually felt sorry for the person that attempted to harm him…
He forgave and he moved on…
Such a brave, brave, resilient boy for all that he has to go through on a day to day basis…
We are very proud of you Oliver… and all the severe food allergy children that have to live with this disease and all that it brings with it…

You are bringing something very special into this world that is bigger than any of us can possibly imagine…

You are our SUPERHEROES!!
Written by: Simone Albert